One of our readers recently sent me this quote: “I'm glad that what's going on in my head isn't happening in my life.” This made me think about the stories we often make up in our head. Consider what would happen if you change your thoughts about your marriage especially if your worried about marriage and all of the potential bad things that your spouse may be doing.
More inspiration about changing your thoughts about your marriage:
You know, when you think someone is ignoring you or is looking at you funny. You may automatically tell yourself that they are judging you and then you proceed to tell yourself an elaborate story about what the other person is thinking and what you will tell them during your next encounter.
Next time you start making up stories, allow yourself to pause and notice what you are doing.
What triggered you to think these thoughts?
Are these thoughts grounded in reality or are they part of a greater story?
Don't judge it but notice how the negativity and catastrophic fears and anxiety that you are experiencing in your mind are not necessarily what is happening in your life.
The more you are aware of the incongruity present, the more you will free yourself to explore the source of these thoughts.
As we get conscious about our thoughts and what is truly influencing these distortions, we can be able to better choose if we want to follow that old story line or if we want to pursue a story that is more in line with what is really going on.
Be in touch,
Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin