If you often think, "Social media is ruining my marriage!", here are 3 rules you need to follow:
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3 Steps to Preventing Social Media from Ruining Your Marriage
Step 1: Don't friend member of the opposite sex
If you are in a committed relationship, interacting on social media is a slippery slope. I have had couples where one spouse was down about the relationship and he was friended by an old flame. This was the beginning of the end for his marriage as he began to get attention when he was in a vulnerable state. Keeping interaction to same sex friends preserves the exclusivity of your relationship with your loved one
Step 2: Don't hide your passwords
Transparency is so important in a relationship. If your partner knows they have access to your account, they won't suspect any wrong doing. While I don't suggest to be nosy or snoop around, the idea that there is mutual trust is important to a relationship. Once there is an opportunity for secrecy, there is a chance for wrong-doing. I have seen it frequently with couples recovering from infidelity. One of the first things they do is turn over their passwords to prove they are not hiding anything. Don't let it get to that point. Be proactive!
Step 3: Don't post about your relationship
Some things are meant to be private. Surely don't complain in public about your partner. Even showcasing your private moments is not always the best idea. Your friends don't need to know all the details of your vacation, etc... Keep something as special memories between you and your partner. It will allow for your relationship to feel special.
It's easy to see how these 3 tips can help protect your most important relationship from the potential problems lurking in social media. Use them wisely!
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Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin