Are siblings meddling in your marriage?
Do you dislike your brother or sister in law?
Is your sister or your spouse's sister trying to break up your relationship?
If someone in your family is trying to break up your marriage, don't let them. They need to listen to this podcast episode just as much as you need to :)
Other important guidance about what to do with meddling family/friends:
- Enjoying Thanksgiving Dinner with your Extended Family
- Is your friend meddling in your marriage?
- What to do when you're experiencing problems with your In-laws
Visual Summary of Podcast
Rabbi Shlomo and Rivka talk a lot in this episode about why couples choose their partner and how even if your sibling has chosen someone that you dislike, there is a scientific reason they chose him/her.
Your brother or sister NEEDS that person to help bring back the pieces of themselves that are not currently being fully expressed. We all do this to protect ourselves in our childhood. If you received messages such as, "Don't move your body that way!" "Don't touch that!" "You're being too sensitive!", then likely, to protect yourself, you naturally "removed" parts of yourself in order to feel safe.
And the same goes for your sibling. The fact that your brother or sister was attracted to his/her mate and chose him/her out of all of the other people that they dated says a lot and is something that should not be tampered with.
What you will learn is going to challenge you to hold back from speaking your mind especially if you are encouraging separation.
It will also challenge you to keep the energy in your own relationship instead of putting your energy into other relationships.
We talk also about how someone living in a miserable marriage can change their relationship dynamic, marriage is not and should never be a "death" sentence.
Practical Tips and Suggestions:
The best way to work on these issues would be to attend an intensive counseling experience for yourself and your partner.
We have a Getting the Love you Want Couples weekend workshop coming up on President's Day Weekend, February 19, 20, 2017. We would love for you to attend! It is over 20 hours of marriage instruction and will reignite your marriage in so many amazing ways! Click here to register or fill in the form below and we will contact you to setup a time to speak over the phone.
Be in touch,
Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin