If your wife wants a divorce all of a sudden, you're likely to be shocked, scared, and even angry. While you may just be a clueless husband who didn't see the obivous coming, it's more likely that her suddern desire to call it quits could be coming from somewhere else.
Some more information on why your wife wants a divorce.
- Should I give her space or keep trying?
- My wife left. I want her back.
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Here's what may be going on.
If your wife says she loves you but is no longer "in love" with you, you may want to wonder if there is someone else in the picture. If your wife is actively cheating on you, she is likely to be so infatuated with her lover that the marriage is no longer of interest. If someone else is in the picture and your wife refuses to end the affair, it wil be a challenge to win her back.
Even if your wife is not having an affair, she could be under the influence of others including friends or even her own individual therapist. If she complains about you to friends or her therapist without them hearing your side, they may provide bad advice and even encourage divorce. While it is unfair and even unethical for a therapist to provide such advice without hearing your side, it does happen more than you think and is often the explanation for a sudden turn of events.
Your relationship may have been chugging along in mediocrity for years but once your wife expressed her doubts and received confirmation or validation from another, especially an "expert", she may now have the "courage" to leave.
Divorce is a life changing decision. It's important that it is conscious and not out of a reaction to pain or influence of another.
Read our short 7 page marriage guide to gain some clarity going forward.