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Is Facebook reigniting old flames? Facebook and Divorce.

by Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin / April 14, 2017

Facebook has been known to reignite old flames and cause problems in marriages. Here's why:facebook and marriage problems



This question was submitted to us by a husband who is hurt from overhearing his wife talking about her ex at their neighborhood block party, and is worried about whether or not facebook is reigniting his wife's old flame. See our response below.

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Q: My Xmas was ruined. My wife and I were at a neighbor party and I heard her talking to her friends about her ex-boyfriend. The next day I saw on my wife’s Facebook that she had looked him up. I’m concerned that if she still has feelings for him after 19 years, it’s a problem. I feel like I want to punish her and make ultimatums. My parents cheated on each other during their twenty years of marriage so I’m a little vigilant about these issues. I've heard a lot about Facebook and marriage problems. What should I do?

A: It makes sense why you’d be concerned and want to punish her for what you feel is disloyalty to your relationship. Punishing her or making ultimatums are not productive. Telling her your disappointment and discussing the issue with her would be a better approach. Given what you witnessed with your parents, it makes sense why you’d be extra vigilant about this and it does make you wonder why she would bother talking about him or looking him up on Facebook after all these years. While she may have just been curious, it might be worth examining the state of your relationship. Are you feeling disconnected? People usually don’t look out of the marriage if they are fulfilled within it. Think about how you can improve the relationship so that she wouldn’t even think about an ex.

Thinking about how you can improve your marriage overall so that your spouse wouldn't even think about an ex takes daily, committed work! Read our free ebook that will provide you with the marriage help that you need to be able to accomplish this great goal.

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Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin

 

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