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Biblical Marriage Counseling - What is the Divine purpose of Marriage?

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If you're religious or hold traditional values and are looking to know how to blend your values along with marriage counseling, you'll appreciate this article which is sourced in biblical references having to do with marriage. It's written by an Orthodox Rabbi, but the message is non-denominational. All those looking for Christian marriage counseling or bible-based marriage therapy can appreciate these sources.


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What does the Bible have to say about marriage?

And Moses brought the people to meet God. . . This teaches that the Divine Presence went forth to meet them, like a bridegroom who goes forth to meet the bride . . .~ traditional Jewish commentary (Rashi) on Exodus 19:17

From the love story detailed in Song of Songs to the wedding customs that hark back to God’s revelation at Sinai, marriage is used throughout Scripture as a metaphor for the relationship between God and man. Why was the marriage between husband and wife chosen to depict our relationship with the Divine?

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 What is meant by the passage, “You shall walk after the Lord, your God” (Deuteronomy 13:5)? How is it possible for a human being to walk after the Shekhina (the Divine Presence)? Doesn’t it say, “For the Lord, your God is a consuming fire” (ibid 4:24)? This is what it means: You shall follow the attributes of the Holy One, blessed be He. Just as he clothes the naked … so should you also clothe the naked. The Holy One, blessed be He, visited the sick . . . so should you also visit the sick                                            ~Talmud, Sotah 14a

The ideal we strive for is to walk in God’s ways – as He is a “consuming fire.”  To emulate God. When we emulate the Divine attributes of mercy and compassion in our relationship with all of creation, we bring Godliness into the world. There is no greater human relationship that provides us this opportunity to be holy than that of a husband and wife. In fact, the word for betrothal in Hebrew, kiddushin, means consecration and sanctification.  As we are consecrated towards each other, we are compelled to become sensitive to the needs of an “other.”

On the other hand, it is through the marital relationship itself that we can better understand what it means to be in relationship with God. We are commanded to love God, yet it is through human love that we are able to even begin to fathom what love is.  One can better understand what it means to be humble before God and to go beyond our ego by practicing these virtues in our own committed relationship.

Yet while these ideas may also apply to other interpersonal relationships, couple-hood is unique in that it calls us to wholeness.

 A man who is not married is not a man, for the verse says, “Male and female He created them” (Bereishit 1:27) and He called them Man.                                            Talmud Yevamot 63a)

Ancient Jewish mysticism (Zohar part I, 91b) explains that husband and wife are really one soul that was divided in half—half of it in a male body and its other half in a female body. Finding our destined partner enables us to find our lost half and return to our original wholeness.  This is why marriage is accompanied by an unparalleled amount of joy.  God has brought the couple together and the Divine plan has become manifest.

A Roman matron once asked Rabbi Yosi ben Chalafta, “Now that God has finished creating the universe, what does he do?” The rabbi replied that God now makes matches, bringing couples together so that they can marry each other.                                                                               ~ Midrash Rabbah (Bereishit 68:4)

Believing that marriage is a “match made in Heaven” provides solace to couples when the luster begins to wear off, for even the rough patches are integral to achieving our original wholeness.

In our increasingly confusing world, wholesome family values and the idea of marriage as a commitment til death do us part, are often scorned. If you are seeking traditional marriage counseling, make sure it is based on sources with similar values about marriage, or is at least respectful enough of where you are coming from. Otherwise, you don’t want to go to marriage counseling to save your relationship and wind up being encouraged to get divorced.

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